Public page of Newman

- Social sciences (especially psychology, sociology, philosophy)
- collecting aphorisms and quotations
- developing web applications
- photographing
- improving my skills in foreign languages.
- playing the flute
- I spend a lot of time with my computer, writing my thoughts, developing software, looking for information, reading;
- I am member of various cultural associations

I am looking for persons who share my interests,.for company and exchange of ideas

My difficulty to adapt to the mindset of 'normal' people

I hope my children will meet the right persons with whom to build their families

- resistance to change
- risk of local and global wars
- environment pollution and climate change
- overpopulation and global poverty

Calm, reflective, introvert, affectionate, serious, conscientious, determined

Introvert

The possibility of learning new things, creating, changing and improving things within and outside myself.

The incomprehension between human beings

When I was young I used to be shy, not any more

Quite stable

Leading

Very little

Much

Very much; if I have to lie I feel bad

Average

I never envy a person for their possessions or their success. I may envy persons for their beauty, strength, intelligence, wisdom, courage and usefulness to society.

I don't think I am arrogant or presumptuous. However I am sometimes perceived so because I have personal ideas that I like to express and discuss. And also because I can hardly refrain from objecting any statements that I consider wrong or false.

Average

More than average

I am not afraid of dying, although I hope this will not happen too soon, because I still have so many things to do.

I cannot accept society as it is and want to do as much as I can reasonably do to contribute to its improvement.

Average

- the ability to make the others feel at ease
- the ability to laugh at oneself
- the ability to question oneself and doubt of the validity of ones own convictions

- non fiction (essays) especially on social sciences and humanism
- some novels with psychological depth

Being retired, I am always on vacation; I prefer to spend my vacations at home; sometimes I like to travel with my family, and explore cultures different than ours.

Films by high quality authors

Classic, jazz, blues, funk jazz, bossa nova

I find sport-watching boring

I eat anything, but very little meat. I could live without meat.

New Year's concert from Wien

Religious traditions

My cross trainer, my computer, my camera, my car, my flute

Woody Allen, George Carlin, Gigi Proietti, Loriot, Corrado Guzzanti, Caterina Guzzanti, Paola Cortellesi, Francesca Reggiani, Carlo Verdone, Alberto Sordi

Stanley Kubrik, Federico Fellini, François Truffaut, Werner Herzog, Clint Eastwood, Paolo Sorrentino, Sidney Lumet, Mario Monicelli, Ettore Scola

Doing the right thing is more important than doing the thing right (Paul Drucker)

Life is a state of mind. (From the film 'Being There')

Love consists of overestimating the differences between one woman and another. (George Bernard Shaw)

Creativity is connecting things. (Steve Jobs)

When one person suffers from a delusion it is called insanity. When many people suffer from a delusion it is called religion. (Robert M. Pirsig)

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. (Carl Gustav Jung)

Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills. (Arthur Schopenhauer)

Nietzsche, Schopenhauer

Albert Camus, Oscar Wilde, Richard Dawkins, Emile Cioran, Balzac, Stendhal, Thomas Mann, Goethe, Alessandro Manzoni, Luigi Anepeta, Erich Fromm, Daniel Goleman, Paul Watzlawick, Eric Berne, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer

Meryl Streep, Clint Easwood, Vittorio Gassman, Alberto Sordi, Carlo Verdone, Paola Cortellesi, Sofia Loren, Marcello Mastroianni, Toni Servillo, Henry Fonda

Mozart, Haendel, J.S. Bach, Liszt, Gershwin

The Beatles, James Taylor, Luigi Tenco, Sergio Endrigo, Enzo Jannacci, Procol Harum, Paul SImon, Billy Joel, Sergio Cammariere, Stefano Bollani

Rome, Munich, Paris

- fear of being misunderstood
- fear of being considered arrogant or presumptuous

Creativity, civil progress

Advertising

Nothing if the person regrets what has done

Much

- Sports watching, commercial music, repetitive things
- nromality

Ignorance, stupidity, presumption, conscius and unconscious violence by most people.

- act of generosity without second ends
- demonstrations of fraternity and solidarity

Aboiut misfortune (genetic defects, disabilities etc.)

Lying by adults

My children

People who compete by force instead of talent or reason

I worry and try to understand the reasons of accusations and criticism. If I think they are founded, I try to improve (if I think it is possibile and right)

Children and adults who know how to interact with children

The sense of power I feel when the computer does exactly what I want from it

- more friends
- do something good for society
- to be able to laugh about things I fear
- understand how mind woks and divulge this knowledge

I think I am luckier than the average

True and deep friendships, teachers who made me love literature, history, the arts

- playing the flute well
- speaking German well

The habit of talking with others about things about which I am passionate but do not interest them.

Writing a book about human nature

I would like to be more flexible in my ideas and opinions

My need for community is frustrated and conflicts aganist my need for liberty

How human mind works

I would create a foundation for the research and divulgation of the humanities

Write a book with my experiences, to be left ad my legacy

Very much

Much, but I can also proceed without it

- sincerity, even when truth hurts
- availability to help me when I need it
- absense of envy and jealousy
- understanding of my weaknesses
- respect for my freedom
- common interests and ethical principle

Not enough

More than being recognized, I would like to be desired as friend or collaborator

- counsulting about computers

Not enough. I often make the mistake of believing that others think like me, that we have similar feelings. Often what they expect from me is very different from what I expect from them.

My ability and inclination to analysis, and my rationality are sometimes seen as arrogance, inhibition, lack of emotions.

My parents

- when I was appointed officer during my militaty service
- when I was awarded a high rank in the IT course by the first company I worked with
- all the times I looked for a job and found it
- when I was appointed manager
- every time I got a salary increase for my achievements

- the times I was not able to speak in public
- the times I started a project that was not feasible

The punishments I received from my father because of my disobedience

My first marriage

My father

- Knowledge of Man (Alfred Adler)
- Man fo himself (Erich Fromm)
- Escape from freedom (Erich Fromm)
- Manwatching (Desmond Morris)
- Brave new world (Aldous Huxley)
- Timido, docile, ardente... (Luigi Anepeta)
- Tonio Kroeger (Thomas Mann)
- The selfidh gene (Richard Dawkins)
- Vital lies, simple truths (Daniel Goleman)
- Pragmatics of Human Communication (Paul Watzlawick)
- La politica del Super-io (Luigi Anepeta)
- Beyod good and evil (F. Nietzsche)
- Communities (Zygmunt Bauman)

Developing IT applications

When I was young, I did not study and read enough. I thought I already knew all the important things in life.

Enough

- critical thought
- analysis and synthesis
- creativity
- sincerity
- coscientiousness
- reliability

- not realizing when someone is bored while hearing what I say
- I get easily enthusiast for ideas that after a while show their uselessness or non feasibility

More than average

- to my relatives
- to my suppliers of goods and services

- in making myself likable
- in understanding other people's feelings
- in foreseeing the behavior of others
- in being diplomatic

- in speaking foreign languages
- in writing
- in analyzing problems
- in debating

Debtor

I can't be normal, I fear normality

I also need to interact with other human beings, to be integrared in society, to be recognized, taken in consideration, loved, respected.

Not enough; I always want to grow, to improve.

More than average

I try to follow the ten commandments cited by Richard Dawkins in his book 'The God Delusion':

1. Do not do to others what you would not want them to do to you.
2. In all things, strive to cause no harm.
3. Treat your fellow human beings, your fellow living things, and the world in general with love, honesty, faithfulness and respect.
4. Do not overlook evil or shrink from administering justice, but always be ready to forgive wrongdoing freely admitted and honestly regretted.
5. Live life with a sense of joy and wonder.
6. Always seek to be learning something new.
7. Test all things; always check your ideas against the facts, and be ready to discard even a cherished belief if it does not conform to them.
8. Never seek to censor or cut yourself off from dissent; always respect the right of others to disagree with you.
9. Form independent opinions on the basis of your own reason and experience; do not allow yourself to be led blindly by others.
10. Question everything.

It's like stealing, with the difference that instead of stealing a big sum of money from a person, one steals a little sum of money form many persons.

It's inevitable. The state must not forbid it, but regulate it, in order to limit the exploitation, pedophilia, crime and health hazards. Moreover, it could be taxed.

Same answer as for prostitution.

Homosexuality (alone or as bisexuality) is not an illness or a deficiency, but a preference, probably of genetic origin. It should be respected as a human right. Homofoby should be punished ad any other violation of human rights. I am also in favor of child adoption by homosexual couples.

It's an exclusive right of the woman concerned.

Thay are both present in our DNA, in proportions different from person to person. Both have their reasons. This world would be much better and confortable if there were more altruism and less egotism. In any case, it is important to understand other people's needs besides our own ones.

War is the most stupid things a human being could do, but absolut pacifism is even mor stupid. In some cases, avoid war would mena to submit oneself to stupid and violent persons or to be destroyed. Hitler would have become master of the entire world if no state would have made the war against him. It's easy to be pacifist when there are nonpacifists that protect you.

It is a right that should be granted to everybody.

I am against it

I am absolutely against it

I am atheist; I think that religion is a delusion needed by the unconscious in order to overcome the existential anguish due to the idea of death, and the absence of a cosmic father; I think that even the most intelligent people can be blind to the absurdity and the contradictions contained in the sacred scriptures of their religions. I think religions also satisfy the innate need for community, present in every human being.

No, I believe in the laws of physycs, in genetics and in chance.

Progressive, reformist, democrat, partly liberal

The majority of its members, some more, some less

- the capacity of processing complex ideas
- the capacity of seeng things in their multiple connections
- the capacity of seeing good and evil in everything and everyone

I don't think drugs are useful; in many cases they are harmful. Nevertheless I think they should be legalized and taxed in order to curbe the crime around them.

There are various types of love, same are even harmful and ill. For me the good love is where one wishes the good for the loved person more than one's own good. This includes wishing to increase the liberty, power and independence of the loved ones.

Pragmatist, rationalist, constructivist, structuralist

Try to understand human nature by means of science, avoiding to believe in religious and traditional teachings.Look for alternative ways to interact and communicate, based on scientific discoveries, especially from neuroscience and psychology

It's no problem, neither medical nor moral

There is no unique psychology nor a unique type of psychotherapy. There are many, and most of them have something valid. is it an error to pick one and not consider the other ones. Psychologies, together with neuosciences are necessary in order to understand human nature and help those who suffer mental disorders. As regards professionals of psychology and psychotherapy, there are good and bad ones and it is very important to be able to choose the right ones.

Silly things

Without scientific proof, I do not take them in consideration.

I doubt it is possibile, there are non scientific proofs about it.

I believe all religions are based on delusion and self-delusion

I am afraid it is a delusion, however I prefer thinking that it exists, although in rare moments. Most of our time we live like robots, governed by unconscious programs that drive also our thoughts and feelings.

Introversion is not an illness and has many advantages, just like extraversion. Perhaps it is a good thing for mankind, that in the general population introverts are less than 50%. it would be good if introverts and extraverts know and respect each other, but i am afraid that extraverts are not able to understand introversion and are inclined to think of it as a handicap and a mental disorder, which is not true.

Both, in different proportions from person to person, determined by genetic factors and individual experiences. I believe, in general, that Man is good towards those that he considers members of its own community and bad or indifferent towards all the others, who he sees as a threat to one's security and well being.

I don't like fashions. I think that what is really beautiful is universal and timeless.

- Freedom to express one's own particular nature
- a united family
- some true friendships
- a decent job
- a home
- being respected by the others

Much

- Vital lies, simple truths (Daneol Goleman)
- Pragmatics of human communication (Paul Watzlawick)
- Community (Zymunt Bauman)

- Don't feed who is not hungry
- Don't trust simple solutions to complex problems
- Remember that nobody is ready to change if not compelled to do it or has no incentive

We must be aware of the fact that our mind deceives and delude us all the time and we should try to understand how it works by means of psychology. Our mid lets us see what does not hurt us, not what is true and real. In any case, simple solutions to complex problems are usually cause of worse problems.

Food, good books, something to write.

Social and enivironmental catasftrophes, but alst civil progress. Internet will be ever mightier and indispensable. Its potential is still largely unknown.

Much, also because I am an IT professional.

Please talk directly with each of us, without proxies.

Let's respect and help each other, let's overcome our prejudices, our certainties and let's cooperate to buikd a new humanist society based on scientific knowledge which can help us to satisfy our deepest needs.